On the floor

On the floor

Eating can be a challenging time for many parents of autism. Why? Because little ones are VERY picky eaters and may or may not necessarily eat what is being presented to them at the time.

I have heard, from a feeding specialist, how a child on the autism spectrum would only eat lays classic potato chips for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Can you imagine how terrifying and frustrating that may be as a parent? The child is not receiving the proper nutrients to be healthy.

I only bring about this story because Hayden was seeing a feeding specialist for his strict eating habits. Concerning meals, Hayden would only eat pepperoni pizza (thin crust) or buffalo chicken snackers made specifically by Michelina in the white box. Would you like to know how picky he is? The same exact snackers came in a green box once and he would not eat them because the packaging was different. Same food, different box.

The audacity.

-Story Time-

Like any other autism household, lunch and dinner time is a different time. Hayden would sit down and eat his food. Normally, that food would consist of, like I stated earlier, either pepperoni pizza or buffalo chicken snackers. For the most part, he eats his food in one bite. If you blink, all of it is gone. Then there are days when he eats slowly. Now, on those slow days you have to be careful.

Out of no where, Hayden will wipe the entire table clean by knocking everything on the floor. Once he does this, he gets up crying and starts running through the house hysterical. Why he does this, I have no clue but I will say that it is quite irritating.

It’s not like he doesn’t like what is being served to him, because he is getting the only items that he will eat. Plus, he is eating it first, then swiping it to the ground. This has caused some confusion on my end.

Maybe it’s just a phase…..

We shall see in a couple weeks or so if this behavior continues.

Cuttin’ up

Cuttin’ up

There are quite a few things I am not able to experience in the world like other parents with “normal” kids.

Getting Hayden’s hair cut is an obstacle that I wish on no person. It’s cardio and a part time job all in one and to top it off, I get charged more because of it. When I say more I mean instead of being charged $10, like every other child was charged for a hair cut, you get a surprise total of $30-$40 because of his special needs.

I am not tripping am I??

*Whew*

He has to be held down while he is getting his hair cut or it will be bad. How do I hold him down you ask? I have him sit on my lap and have my arms wrapped around his torso (including his arms) and my legs wrapped around his. Did I mention he was four years old when all of this happened?

Like I said earlier, a cardio workout, but that should still be no reason to charge almost $50 for a haircut for a child when I am doing the hard part!

So I ask again, am I tripping?

I will say, one of the places we went to was considerate of Hayden’s needs. The owner made sure that there was limited people in the shop. He also made sure to have the lights dim and all music low, just in case there was a sensory overload. That, I appreciated.

However, after being referred to this particular location we experienced very unprofessional-like behavior from one of the other employees there. Not only did this person get a kick out of Hayden fighting because of the sound and vibration of the clippers, but they were laughing pretty loudly. Although the owner apologized for their actions, it was still unacceptable.

Needless to say, we never went there again and I have spread the word to other autism parents in the area about how unprofessional and inconsiderate some of the workers were at this particular location. The owner was nice, but he should have done a better job educating his staff on what autism was. It completely destroyed the image I had for him and that place.

To avoid the unnecessary price spikes and snickering from ignorant bystanders, I decided to start cutting his hair on my own. It saved me a lot of money for months and Hayden was more comfortable around me. Yes, he did try and fight me off or run a away (because of his sensory processing disorder), but I was still able to get the job done.

Ask me if I am able to cut his hair still….

Hayden is the strongest little person I have ever met in my life and the crazy thing about it is he doesn’t realize he has that type of strength. I have had teachers and other professionals tell me he is extremely strong, so when he unleashes his “super power” because the sound of the clippers hurts him, I stopped.

He is only seven years old and he is only going to get stronger. We will have to figure something out about his type 4C hair because cutting, unfortunately, is no longer an option for both of our safety. Maybe when he gets older he will be more accepting of the clippers, but right now it is a no-go.

So for now, we are embarking on a new journey and it is called, ‘Mastering the Crown.’ His little afro will be fun to explore.