…….that’s a good question. (haha) I only laugh because it’s not something that is asked too often.
As a parent, a good parent, your top priority is to make sure that your kid(s) are taken care of. This often means that their needs are put before yours, which is fine and how it should be.
So, where does that leave time for you to take care of you?
Attending speech, occupational and soon to be feeding therapy sessions on a weekly basis, mixed with working a full time job, sprinkled with graduate school home work, and finally a dab of being a single parent. . . . I am sure there is more to add to this list, I just don’t want to overwhelm you.
I’ve learned from many experiences that if I do not make time for myself, my body and health will feel it later and all of this could eventually affect both Hayden and Maya.
Having this conversation with other parents made me feel at ease that I was not alone, but at the same time I did not feel okay that we were all experiencing these feelings.
We all know time can be limited in some households, so you make the best of the little time you have and do something for you so that you can be okay the next time someone asks.
Here are some self-care suggestions to help you stay on your toes!
- Go for a walk-if you are unable to leave the home, walk up your stairs if you have them
- Be completely still for a few minutes
- Read a book
- Take a nap
- Have a sip of your favorite drink – drink responsibly
- Take a hot shower or bath (whichever your prefer)
- Say NO – this may be hard for some, but not adding extra work to yourself can help
- Get a massage
- Start an exercise regimen
- Drink tea/coffee
All it takes is a baby step. The more you make time for yourself, the better you will feel about tackling your every day tasks and protecting your mental health.
That way, the next time some asks if you are okay, you can gladly say yes without lying.